"The Torah command us [Do not stand aside while your fellow's blood is being shed] (Vayikra 19:16). We are obligated to spare no effort in preventing our fellow Jew from suffering physical, emotional, or monetary damage.
In a situation where a potential victim is unaware that he is being threatened, one is required to warn him even though this will reflect negatively on the person or persons responsible. Speech of this sort is not merely permissible, it is obligatory. Nevertheless, one must be certain that conditions which render speech constructive have been appropriately met..." pg. 188 of Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day.
As an elder in the congregation who counsels a lot, I constantly struggle with issues related to lashon hara. I'm not talking about the people's mouths - that's pretty much a given for spiritual babes. I'm saying I, me, myself, struggle with lashon hara. Usually it's because I know things that would really help the situation if only the person knew how people were reacting to their behavior or how another person is about to behave. Not knowing when to cross that line so that justice can be had and peacemaking can be accomplished is a pain! But as James said, the one who controls his lips is perfect and mature. So much growth left in that department!
ReplyDeleteIf we lived in ancient Israel and the punishment for lashon hara was leprosy then I'd most likely be sitting alone outside the camp right now hoping that someone would pray to G-d on my behalf.
DeleteIt's difficult to know how to apply the rules in all situations but it's also difficult to control the evil inclination, that old desire for momentary gratification.